Being a Mum is one of the most rewarding experiences in life, but it can also be a challenging shift from a career-driven identity. Like many other Mums, I made the decision to swap my career for motherhood, and my identity shifted with me but once my youngest had started school I was left feeling lost, wondering who I was with no job and child-free most of the day.
It was a time of great uncertainty, but also of self-discovery and reinvention. I learned that my identity was not tied to any role, but instead to my inherent values, passions and aspirations.
The good news is that it is never too late to reconnect with yourself as an individual. In this blog, I’ll share some tips and strategies that can help you do just that.
Understand your thoughts and emotions
You may have had your fair share of anxiety, stress or emotional turmoil. These can be overwhelming, leading you to feel lost and uncertain. It’s essential to take some time to understand these emotions. Make a list of things that trigger you and figure out why. Once you’ve identified the problem, you can work towards a solution.
Embrace change
Change is inevitable in life – how can you make the best of it and embrace the change? You may have to let go of certain things that no longer serve you or adapt to a new routine. Letting go of the past and accepting change can be liberating, offering new opportunities and a new you.
Set boundaries
Mum’s tend to put themselves last on the list of priorities but taking care of yourself is essential in reconnecting with your identity beyond ‘Mum’. Set boundaries with your time, say no to things that don’t serve you and prioritise activities that make you feel good. This can be as simple as catching up with a close friend, going for a walk or journaling. Make self-care a non-negotiable part of your routine – you’ll be better equipped to show up as your best self in all areas of your life.
Make mistakes and try new things
Rediscovering your identity beyond mum is a process, it’s normal to make mistakes along the way. Don’t be hard on yourself if things don’t go exactly as planned or if you stumble along the way. Trying new things means stretching your comfort zone which can be uncomfortable – it can also be incredibly rewarding. Allow yourself to be curious and open-minded.
Celebrate your unique traits
Take some time to reflect on the qualities and strengths that make you unique. Maybe you are a great listener, an excellent problem-solver or are you talented creatively? Whatever it is, own it and celebrate it.
So to all the Mum’s out there struggling with this – remember, you’re more than “just a Mum”. You’re a complex, multifaceted individual with endless potential. By taking time for inner reflection, you can begin to fully connect with your own core identity.